We, humans revel in positive attention some to such an extent that they will go to the extent of being tremendously boisterous and loud about every mundane little thing. They all remind me of just one person "Rakhi Sawant" yes the bootylicious, well endowed(thanks to a gifted team of doctors and a hell lot of Silicon) item girl of Bollywood.
No offense to this clan of people, they are who they are. Coming back to the point, everyone needs validation, we derive the feeling of self worth from a warm approval, nice compliment, little bit of praise, or a huge applause. All of these go a long way but fall short in front of self validation. Remember the moments in life when you helped some guy and thought to yourself, now that felt good. No one had to tell you " dude you're Mother Teresa man you should get the noble peace prize for that" that incident just got buried in the sand of time. You sat and finished the crossword all by yourself and thought to yourself "man my English is fabulous, I could be the next Salman Rushdie". However ludicrous the self praise might be, it has an effect like none other.
Its all about self image, and the moment that falls all the approval, compliments seem to fall on deaf ears. Now its time to pick yourself up do things that you like doing, things that you're good at. Easier said than done, its a long process and the journey is still not even close to being over..
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i admit self validation seems like the most true any validation can get but i also think that its not in moments of crisis that one shud conduct such an exercise coz the results will be all wrong coz u are over reviewing everything with dis satisfaction and are looking at changing everything to bring u the happiness that u think is missing in your life.
sometimes its moments like these that give u the courage to bring that much needed change but thats really rare,its also likely that ur self appraisal might jst be a result of u over critising everything around u &wanting to change everything.sometimes we get so carried away in our miseries that we dont realise all the special things around us &believing change to be necessarily good we rush into it &leave some great things behind.and its not really the best time to make a judgement call on your life..i can understand u are not feelin satisfied with what u have but sometimes even though u might not agree to it,some ppl close to u can be better &more impartial judges of your situation.
just remember not all the changes will make u happy, some might get u stuck in another quaterlife crisis,& when u give up so much to start afresh u always get overdisappointed when something goes wrong &ask urself,was it all worth it? think it over..
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